The 11 year old cries and says she can't control what me and her father does? I feel council on her end and his with this could help especially if his Ex saw the same thing I am seing?
His Ex left him for another man..why they divorced.
My kids are raised and I have to think of my future and what I need and want.
I don't want to be unhappy or become unhappy and bitter at him as I lived so many years that way.
I do love him very much and have never met a man like him.
I would truly give it all up if he would handle all this more efficiently as I do love kids and his 6 year old loves me, the 11 year old likes me but..... My man loves me very much as well and does everything in the world for me.
I have been dating a man for a year who has two young girls ages 6 and 11. She manipulates him, tries to tell us what to do then cries and becomes sick at her stomach when I stay all night and I don't sleep with him I sleep with the 6 year old on a futon.
This little girl is obsessed with her father, she kisses him in the mouth or tries to now as he won't let her do this anymore.
She was like this in his previous marriage of 20 years and his ex wife said he was in love with his daughter.
We can't have any alone time when she is there and its such a relief when he doesn't have his girls because of this.
His ex wife pawns the girls off on him on her days to have them at least for a couple hours due to she has no one to pick them up from school and take them to activities, ect., but its just enough to ruin our alone time because we can't plan anything for the days he has off from them.
I told him that he pays child support and she needs to arrange for a sitter or after school program on her days so that when I have a day off (I work a lot of hours) and he doesn't have them that we can have a full day together without worrying about them.
He has also allowed both of his girls to sleep with him up until recently he has his 11 year old in her own bed, but the 6 year old still sleeps with him.