I’ve been with my fiancé for a little over 2.5 years now. We’ve lived an hour apart for our entire relationship except for the past month or so, I’m in the middle of moving in.
He had a roommate and I just figured he used it to take pics of himself for the computer.
It bothered me because I didn’t really know, but I got over it and let it go.
I’ve spent more and more time here for the past 6 months, since we’ve got engaged, so I’ve used his computer a lot more as well.
I was messing around one day and found a ton of pornography on it.
Eventually, he went and deleted all the pornography and included the pictures of that girl. I finally broke down, I knew his email password, and I know it’s wrong, but it didn’t stop me, I just needed to know if he was talking to anyone-more than just friends.
He said it was to put an end to everything and I should never doubt his love for me. Well, I continued to use his computer and I would check every once in awhile just to see if I’d find any new pics of any girls. I was searching for a site I had gone to before so I pulled down the bar where you can see past sites visited and ratemybody.com, adultfriendfinder and others were listed. I understand what these sites are and at first I just thought he was going to them just to look at the women. So I found emails from adultfriendfinder telling him he’s got new matches or so and so was contacting him.
I then went to his sent messages and found he was contacting these girls.
He’d sent things talking about how he was horny and was looking for phone (sex- I assumed),-he’d given his number out on a separate email, he’d tell them he had pictures of him he could send, he’d ask them if they had messengers and webcams, he’d let them know he did, he reminded girls of pictures they were suppose to take... This is over the period of our entire relationship (I could tell by the dates these emails were sent).
I told him I felt bad that he was looking at these women-but I felt even worse because I was the one who looked it up in his documents on his computer-I felt I invaded his privacy-I didn’t want to be one of those crazy girlfriends/fiancés.