Online dating was actually less scary than it initially sounded. During my six months, I communicated with some strange people and received even stranger emails, but most everyone respected my space and nobody made me feel unsafe. Rules Can Be Helpful, but Leave Room for an Exception: After numerous dates, I came to some conclusions based upon initial judgments of peoples' profiles and communications.I found it an ideal way to meet people since I did not work with eligible singles or enjoy going to bars. Safety First, of Course: Don't reveal too much about your location or employer in your profile or initial communications and always meet in a public location. I didn't date individuals whose profile pictures featured them taking a photo of themselves in the mirror and learned that a common taste in music does not make up for larger lifestyle differences.
When I realized I had arranged a date with a one-picture person, I considered bailing.
But, had I not left room for one exception, I wouldn't have met my husband.3. Know When to Move on and When to Use Them to Your Advantage: In the real world, people generally don't leave you hanging. At some point, you'll begin exchanging emails with someone and then, all of a sudden, you'll never hear from them again. The other person will often cease to reply instead of informing you he or she is no longer interested.
You can pester them for a response, but it's safe to assume their behavior communicates a lack of interest.4.
Be Direct Even If it Feels Counterintuitive: If directness is challenging for you as it is for me, use online dating as an opportunity to practice being assertive and try not to be too hard on yourself when you fail. Being direct will keep uncomfortable situations from becoming worse and prevent you from wasting your time or anyone else's, even if it may feel rude.
I was puzzled when he looked nothing like his photos.
Later, when I confessed I did not know a common football term, he abruptly ended the date.
We never communicated again, though I did keep his gift of a tin of SPAM neatly wrapped with a red ribbon. Don't Meet for a Meal on a First Date: You've never spent time with this individual so how do you know you'll have a good time? You'll probably know whether or not you want to see this person again within the first five minutes.
A beverage-date gives you a shorter timetable, should you need it, while a meal elongates the meeting.
For example, ending a date early may feel awkward, but is it more awkward than leading someone on or committing to another awkward date you don't want to attend?
On one occasion, I squashed a date before it began.
An individual had called me to set up a meeting, but I found the conversation so uncomfortable that I informed him it wasn't going to work out anymore.