I recently watched the politically scintillating first season of "The Newsroom" and was appalled to find that most of the (egregiously dysfunctional) romantic relationships portrayed on the show are between people who work closely together.
Gottlieb cites a study claiming that wives reported greater sexual satisfaction when their husbands stuck to doing "masculine" chores around the house.
I hope that someone conducts a parallel study regarding single people: women obviously want gender equality and equal pay (and rightfully so), but when the man doesn't buy dinner I wonder if that adversely affects the perceived sexual "chemistry" between them... Correspondingly, you may be familiar with the concept of the myth of romantic love as explicated by Robert A.
Johnson in "We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love" wherein damsels in distress seek to be saved by knights in shining armor, and/or "soulmates" believe that the apple of their eyes are the missing parts of them (cf. Such myths would constitute matrices of assumptions that we all agree upon regarding the etiquette of courtship.
In our post-post modern information age, all of these assumptions regarding gender roles have been cast aside.
Thus, it is unwise and often unprofitable to make assumptions regarding which partner leads when dancing, who is supposed to call whom (does anyone even use the telephone anymore???
), who pays for dinner, and who makes sexual advances.In my workshops and on my DVDs I discuss what Mary Ainsworth called "ambivalent-insecure attachment" and "avoidant-insecure attachment" observing that some of my patients have a difficult time trusting that others will not abandon or betray them; thus, they sabotage their relationships before the other person can leave them, which would re-open their primal abandonment/betrayal wounds; or they don't/can't fully ever commit; or they learn how to create hardened facades (false selves) so that they can shrug their shoulders and say "Whatever..." as they continue to blame others and abnegate responsibility for their inauthentic ways of showing up as relationship after relationship implodes or conveniently FADES OUT.The problem is as follows: the most propitious tools for making relationships succeed - authenticity and authentic communications - may not be the most alluring traits when dating. Even with the amount of other Messianic singles blogs and FB pages, it is still proving difficult for Messianic singles to meet other like-minded singles.We offer We do our best to screen applicants and remove people who are not truly Messianic. We honor your privacy and your real name, phone number, address and email will never be shared or displayed publicly unless you choose to do so.(a Torah keeper [keep the Saturday Sabbath & practice Biblical Kosher] and a follower of Y'shua) in order to join.